{"id":18983,"date":"2022-06-10T16:23:14","date_gmt":"2022-06-10T16:23:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/?p=18983"},"modified":"2022-06-25T13:49:33","modified_gmt":"2022-06-25T13:49:33","slug":"do-black-men-have-a-problem-with-short-hair-on-women","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/do-black-men-have-a-problem-with-short-hair-on-women\/","title":{"rendered":"Do Black Men Have A Problem With Short Hair On Black Women?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Do Black Men have a problem with women with Short hair?\u00a0 HECK YEAH<\/strong><\/p>\n

Recently, I\u2019ve decided to chop off 2\/3 of my natural hair that I\u2019ve been growing for the last 7 years. Many people are asking, \u201cWhy would I do such a thing to such beautiful and lush hair?\u201d And, I say with a resolved grin because I need change and what\u2019s easier than changing one\u2019s hair. Also, I tell them I am tired of feeling in debt to my long nappy tresses. Honestly, with the length of hair I have it takes several hours to wash, detangle, and style. I am devoting too much time to my hair. It\u2019s coming off.<\/b>\u00a0I need a manageable length.<\/p>\n

For some of my friends and family, this is enough. They say, \u201cCool, do you sis.\u201d<\/p>\n

However, this corner of affirmation seems to be quite limited to the women in my life. For when I have broached this topic with the\u00a0black men in my life\u00a0<\/b>they earnestly urge me to either wait or not to do it all.\u00a0<\/span>Initially, I found this puzzling because it ain\u2019t like I\u2019m cutting off my long weave ponytail that sashays behind my derri\u00e8re which I know some men find erotically appealing. Simply, I am hacking off my puffy nappiness, hair that does not lend itself easily to the male fantasy.<\/p>\n

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But, it dawned on me in the wee hours of the morning why \u201cmany\u201d black men desire long straightened hair and big floppy natural hair because short hair rather it is natural or relaxer girl short makes them uneasy about their hetero-masculinity. You see, long hair, long locks, and big natural hair make women look like what women are supposed to look like. They look feminine. They look motherly. They look like a sexy Pam Grier. They look sweet. They look like a black Barbie doll. And most importantly, they look\u00a0non-threatening\u00a0like women. And if a woman looks like a woman, men\u00a0assume<\/i>\u00a0she will act like a woman. This is the politics of embodiment 101.<\/p>\n

However, if a woman sports a ball fade, a tiny afro, or a stylish super short cut than it can be\u00a0assumed<\/i>\u00a0that she is a woman who chooses to play by the rules of her own game. Because sporting a ball fade as a woman is a daring act in a hetero-masculine environment. I remember when I first went natural 7 years ago and only had an inch of hair on my head. Men and women alike said with a hint of disgust, \u201cYou look like a boy,\u201d and urged me to demarcate my gender by wearing big earrings for they feared I would be labeled a big-ole-black lesbian. And coupled with my black feminist politics they worried about my eternal salvation. Short hair and black feminism is the devil.<\/p>\n

Mind you, I am not immune from the inner voices that say, \u201cWhat if he does not like your short look?\u201d However, I refuse to remain captive by these voices and the voices of men who want me to keep my hair long. I need short hair right now. My life style requires it. I am tired of doing my big hair. As wise women, we must know when things need to end or go underground until the season comes for it to remerge. Meaning, we need to know \u201cfor ourselves\u201d when we need to grow or cut our hair rather it is natural or relaxer girl hair.<\/p>\n

And, let me put a quick caveat here. My blog is speaking specifically about African-American men who live in the US because I understand hair and gender mean different things around the world.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Do Black Men have a problem with women with Short hair?\u00a0 HECK YEAH Recently, I\u2019ve decided to chop off 2\/3 of my natural hair that I\u2019ve been growing for the last 7 years. Many people are asking, \u201cWhy would I do such a thing to such beautiful and lush hair?\u201d And, I say with a Read More…<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":19065,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[1472,54,1287,1],"tags":[1473,1065,16],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18983"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=18983"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18983\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":27885,"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18983\/revisions\/27885"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/19065"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=18983"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=18983"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=18983"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}