{"id":41255,"date":"2022-08-22T15:18:44","date_gmt":"2022-08-22T15:18:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/?p=41255"},"modified":"2022-08-22T15:18:44","modified_gmt":"2022-08-22T15:18:44","slug":"forward-we-sometimes-must-go-backwards-to-ge-ahead","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/forward-we-sometimes-must-go-backwards-to-ge-ahead\/","title":{"rendered":"Forward We Sometimes must Go Backwards To Ge Ahead"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Forward in Life feels like you\u2019re going backwards sometimes, actually you might be making progress.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cSometimes things have to get worse before they can get better.\u201d<\/p>\n

This is something that I only got recently..<\/p>\n

I always heard this and thought \u201cyeah, yeah, that\u2019s probably true\u2026 for other people. I\u2019m just going to cruise from one level of awesome to the next.\u201d<\/p>\n

But the other day I got it.<\/p>\n

And I got it because I went the physio.<\/p>\n

I went to the physio to get my shoulder looked at. As you know, I hit the gym pretty regularly. I like the energy it gives me, and I like to keep myself looking like a Greek god (the god of eating and drinking.)<\/p>\n

But my shoulder was starting to tweak out a bit, and I think all the time I was spending at the computer probably wasn\u2019t helping.<\/p>\n

Anyway, I won\u2019t go into the details of the bio-mechanics (because there\u2019s no way I remember), but my physio spent some time on my shoulder and loosened a bunch of stuff up.<\/p>\n

And what I noticed was that my shoulder was feeling better. So that was great. But then my neck was feeling really sore. And under my arm pit. And across my chest.<\/p>\n

I\u2019d seemed to have replaced a single chronic pain with a whole bunch of minor ones.<\/p>\n

So I went back to the physio and was like, \u201chey, what\u2019s going on here?\u201d<\/p>\n

And they said, \u201cSometimes it has to get worse before it gets better.\u201d<\/p>\n

And I\u2019m like, \u201cOh don\u2019t give me that. What do you mean?\u201d<\/p>\n

It turns out that what was happening is that I was using my shoulder in a particular way to protect other parts of my body.<\/p>\n

So because my neck was tight, my shoulder was moving in a way that didn\u2019t make my neck worse. And because my chest was tight, my shoulder was moving in a way that protected that.<\/p>\n

Eventually, that funny way of moving started to create pain in my shoulder.<\/p>\n

But what that meant was that when we got the shoulder moving freely again, it was no longer protecting my neck and my chest.<\/p>\n

And without the protection of my shoulder, I now became very conscious of the pain in my neck and chest.<\/p>\n

It felt like a new pain, but it was actually just an older, legacy pain being unsurfaced.<\/p>\n

And so now I have more work to do.<\/p>\n

And at this point I got it. This is why sometimes it feels like you\u2019re going backwards when you\u2019re going forward.<\/p>\n

We build many different rigidities into our life to \u2018protect\u2019 pain points.<\/p>\n

So maybe feeling poor is painful, so we cover that up with a resentment of rich people and an unfair capitalist system.<\/p>\n

Maybe we felt shame about our creative urges, and so we cover that up with a hyper-macho commitment to being \u2018business-like\u2019.<\/p>\n

Maybe we were rejected in love, and so we cover that up with an over-the-top righteous commitment to dead-end marriages, with an expectation that marriage should be dull and boring.<\/p>\n

Whatever it is, at some point those protective measures don\u2019t serve our broader life goals. They are protecting particular pain points, but they are holding us back from living a rich and happy life.<\/p>\n

And so we need to \u2018unwind\u2019 them.<\/p>\n

But when we unwind them, the old pains resurface, and now we\u2019ve got to deal with them.<\/p>\n

And so there comes a stage where all we\u2019ve got to show for our work is a new set of pain \u2013 a new cluster of blockages \u2013 and a cluster of blockages that feels deeper and harder to shift than the original set, because they are.<\/p>\n

And this is why sometimes things have to get worse before they can get better.So stick with it.\u00a0 Keep going, and eventually everything will be moving in harmony again. That point exists.\u00a0 Just got to push through it<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Forward in Life feels like you\u2019re going backwards sometimes, actually you might be making progress. \u201cSometimes things have to get worse before they can get better.\u201d This is something that I only got recently.. I always heard this and thought \u201cyeah, yeah, that\u2019s probably true\u2026 for other people. I\u2019m just going to cruise from one Read More…<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":41257,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[58,1],"tags":[1177],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41255"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=41255"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41255\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":41258,"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41255\/revisions\/41258"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/41257"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=41255"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=41255"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=41255"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}