{"id":43782,"date":"2022-09-19T17:06:26","date_gmt":"2022-09-19T17:06:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/?p=43782"},"modified":"2022-09-19T17:06:26","modified_gmt":"2022-09-19T17:06:26","slug":"black-panther-jungle-cruise","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/test.nahtnow.com\/en\/black-panther-jungle-cruise\/","title":{"rendered":"Black Panther Jungle Cruise"},"content":{"rendered":"
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My fianc\u00e9e told me that my 6 year-old daughter won\u2019t be allowed to attend our wedding. My daughter is everything to me. She will be allowed on my special day. How should I respond?<\/div>\n
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By:\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong> Natalia Perevalova<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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I am aware that you asked for an answer – not judgement, so I ask you, too to believe that what I am about to say is not coming from the place of judgement. So, here goes: your daughter is not everything to you.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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If she legitimately was, you would not find yourself in love, and wanting to marry a person who has the idea that allowing or not allowing your daughter to come to your wedding is even negotiable.<\/p>\n

If your daughter was \u2018everything\u2019 to you, you would not hesitate to have a very straightforward, adult conversation with your fianc\u00e9e, which would go something like:<\/p>\n

\u201cDarling\/my love\/sweetheart\/honey\/baby\/[name], I am responsible for my daughter: she didn\u2019t make herself – my ex and I, did.<\/p>\n

She lost her family, because my ex and I broke up, through no choice of hers, which means that, whether you and I like it or not, as adults, we owe, a lot to this girl.<\/p>\n

I wish that the circumstances were different. I wish you and I can have our wedding day to ourselves, and to our love, only – without anything from the past being brought into it. But being a parent means having the responsibility that goes beyond yours and mine love for each other.<\/p>\n

The same goes for marrying a parent: by marrying me, you take on the responsibility to my daughter. This is why it is so important that you, my darling\/my love\/sweetheart\/honey\/baby\/[name], and I are clear about what our marriage means. I moved away from my ex – my love belongs to you, and to you alone, but I have no moral right to move away from my children\/my child\u201d\u2026<\/p>\n

So, what I am trying to say, is not that you don\u2019t love your daughter – I am saying that you seem quite confused, yourself, over what is what: what are your responsibilities, and what are your rights – or the other way round. Your daughter, naturally, is an extension of your confusion in regard to your own position in life, and in love.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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What secrets are you hiding from your parents?<\/span><\/b><\/div>\n
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By<\/strong>: \u00a0 Sanjana Anand<\/b><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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I have several deep secrets which I hid from my parents.<\/p>\n